Before my father passed, he told me something that stayed with me:

One of the most attractive things a person can do is say, “I’m sorry.”

Not loudly.
Not defensively.
Not with conditions.

Just sincerely.

In life, we all cross boundaries sometimes. We say things with the assumption that we’re right. We move too fast. We forget that words land differently on different hearts. And without meaning to, we can hurt people deeply.

Saying “I’m sorry” isn’t weakness.
It’s emotional intelligence.

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Hosting, Energy, and Invisible Labor

I’m an empath. I feel everything.

This past holiday season, I hosted my sister and her family from New York. I was so excited to have my little sister, her kids, and family under one roof. Christmas at my house turned into 28 people. The house was full. Toys everywhere. Food flowing. People coming and going through the kitchen.

It was joyful.
It was chaotic.
It was full of love.

And it was exhausting.

When you open your home, you’re not just providing space. You’re holding energy. You’re making sure everyone feels welcome, comfortable, seen, and safe. That kind of hosting comes with invisible labor that most people don’t recognize.

By New Year’s Eve, I was spiritually and mentally tired. I didn’t want another party. I didn’t want loud music or drinking. I wanted to go to bed early, hold a calm vibration, and enter the new year intentionally.

That was my boundary.

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When Boundaries Aren’t Respected

What hurt wasn’t that people wanted something different.
What hurt was what followed.

It’s now been over three weeks, and no one has picked up the phone to say, “I’m sorry.” No acknowledgment. No accountability.

And that silence made me reflect on something deeper.

My entire life, I’ve felt like I was doing a tap dance for love.

Do you love me now?
Am I acceptable yet?
Is what I’ve built enough?

I’m a single mom. I’ve worked relentlessly to build a life for my son. No one handed me what I have. I bought my home. I built my business. I’ve shown up every day for 30 years as a florist, holding other people’s emotions through flowers.

And yet, in my own home, I felt eaten alive.

I later realized there were conversations happening behind my back under my roof. And that feeling is devastating. Your home is a sanctuary. Who you invite in matters.

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Ego vs. Accountability

Here’s the simple truth:

It is incredibly easy to say “I’m sorry.”

But ego makes it feel impossible.

When someone waits weeks or months to apologize, it says more about their character than the situation itself. A fast apology shows credibility. A delayed one often shows avoidance.

No one is perfect. We all make mistakes. Apologies aren’t about blame. They’re about repair.

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What Flowers Have Taught Me About Apologies

I’ve owned my flower shop for 30 years.

Every single day, people call or walk in saying:
“I messed up.”
“I hurt my wife.”
“She’s having a bad day.”
“I need to say I’m sorry.”

And they send flowers with two words:
I’m sorry.

I’ve witnessed the power of apologies for decades. Flowers soften the moment, but the words matter most.

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Choosing Clarity Over Chaos

Something else has changed in my life. I stopped drinking alcohol last August. Not because I had a problem, but because I wanted to see my life clearly.

And clarity has been powerful.

I feel deeply connected to my body, my energy, my environment. I’d rather go for walks, ride my horses, meditate, juice, and move slowly than numb myself. That clarity has sharpened my boundaries and my vision.

My book comes out March 17.
I’ll be hosted by the Fairmont for a signing and flower pop-up.
I’ll be in magazines, on podcasts, doing lives.
I’m finally building my Flower Academy.

People rely on me. I have work to do.

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What I’m Choosing to Focus On

January has made me crystal clear.

I want:
 • A beautiful wedding with people who will never leave my side
 • A ranch where I can design, write, and create
 • To travel the world teaching flower workshops
 • To speak on a TED stage about Flower Energy
 • To see my son finish 8th grade thriving
 • To grow my flower shop to $1 million in sales this year

And most of all, I want peace.

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The Takeaway

Life will disappoint you sometimes.
People will fall short.
But you don’t have to abandon yourself.

Saying “I’m sorry” can heal so much, so fast.

And if someone can’t do that?
You don’t need to dance for their approval anymore.

Flood yourself with kindness.
Think supportive thoughts.
Protect your peace.

Because just around the corner…
there are miracles waiting.